Interview

• If you and I were on the beach having some wine and great food, what would you tell me about yourself.
  I'd tell you that I don't drink wine and that eating on the beach is a recipe for ingesting sand. I don't need booze or rich food or beautiful locations to be honest about my life. If I think something would be illuminating, illustrative, or helpful, I will share it willingly. If I'm asked, I'll reply honestly.
• What’s your lifestyle? What makes you who you are?
  1) Excellence: I'm nearly incapable of doing things halfway. Whatever I'm doing, I seek to excel at it. Whatever responsibilities I take on, I take it seriously, though others may see it as a remedial task.
  2) Energy: I get up before the sun to hit the gym and by the time I'm there I'm in overdrive. It took me many years to learn how to relax (mindfulness meditation) fully because I'm constantly on Go.
  3) Efficiency: I love streamlining things, makings them more convenient for myself an other people.
  4) Compassion: I have a huge heart.
  5) Passion: try me and find out,
• What makes you stand out from the crowd?
  Resilience. Which is not to say that none of the other people I know are resilient, but simply that I have had mine tested harshly and repeatedly and I have come out stronger and with greater integrity as a result.
• What is your ‘niche’?
  Assuming this means sexual niche, I suppose mine would be versatility (and I don't mean simply that I perform both roles). I thoroughly enjoy some very aggressive role play scenes. I love gear and fetish play. I'm also a fan of passionate touch and making out and doing things slowly. The guy I'm with dictates the niche of the moment: some guys meet me and they want me to be their bottom boy, some want me to hold them down and take it, others are after a mutual exchange of roles. I'm a highly sexual being just looking for direction.
• What kind of diet and fitness regiment do you follow?
  One that works for me. I have a background in fitness instruction, and I've worked with many men over the years. The lesson from that experience is this: everybody is different; every body responds in its own way to energy-yielding nutrients (carbs, fats, proteins) and to various methods of exercising. My metabolism and musculature develop best when I hit the gym 5-6 mornings a week, cram a beastly workout into 45 minutes, and do a lot of walking throughout the day (intense cardio eats away at my gains). I eat carbs (correction: I LOVE carbs) at appropriate times, and otherwise focus on high protein, healthy fat, and phytonutrients. If you'd like to talk about fitness or nutrition, I'd be happy to speak about it ad nauseum
• What should others absolutely know about you?
  That I am genuine in my passion. Though I have many sexual interests and fetishes, what truly gets me going is seeing my partner(s) turned on and enjoying themselves. I tend to get lost in the heat of the moment.
• What do you enjoy most about yourself?
  My integrity, my drive, my compassion and concern for other people, my intellect, and my fortitude. These are qualities hard won over a challenging life, and I am proud and comforted to recognize that my trials have allowed me to become who I am today.
• Name 5 things that you can’t live without.
  The correct answer to this question would be food, water, shelter, air, and sleep. However, there are certain things that, while not technically necessary for sustaining life, make life worth living:
  1) Human Connection: I have spent extended time in isolation and have learned that we are inherently social creatures. Being alone for too long -- or subsisting solely off social media rather than real-life interaction -- can have deleterious effects on the psyche.
  2) Touch: the sensation of physically connecting with another person brings a sense of assurance to me. Consequently, I am a hugger.
  3) Recovery Time: whether you're talking about the gym, work, your social calendar, or just life in all its myriad manifestations, a period of pause to process, grow, and recover is essential for allowing today's experience to improve tomorrow.
  4) Communication: I am a firm believer that the vast majority of the negative emotionality in the world stems from an inability of people to express themselves to one another. Understanding brings empathy which brings compassion.
  5) Purpose: I am constitutionally incapable of simply living day to day. I require goals to drive my actions, to inspire me.